I love my mother to death, I do. I never went hungry, we always had shelter, we had a basement full of toys, books, and every Disney movie ever. She has always helped out family, friends, neighbors, etc even when she didnt have anything to give. She has always let me speak my mind, even if I was challenging her I could say how I felt. I am the person I am today because she always allowed me to be my weird introverted no style having self. But she also fell short as a parent in a lot of areas (my dad as well). I believe, that she believes, she did the best she could as a mother and Im at peace with that (now at least). Sometimes people dont live up to your expectations and thats ok. My issue is that she has this weird manipulative personality and has somehow convinced herself that her kids owe her something because she decided to be a parent.