Black Blogger Resources

Black Blogger Resources

Black Blogger Communities (3).jpg

Blogging can be overwhelming when you first start off. Its one thing to write engaging posts, pick the right pictures, and hit publish. Its a totally different ball game once you start trying to increase traffic and monetize your site. One of the best ways to promote your blog is to find, join, and participate in your blogging niche communities.

Continue reading “Black Blogger Resources”

Advertisements

The First Generation College Student Burden

A first-generation student in its simplest terms can be defined as a ” student with neither parent having any education beyond high school”. It is one of the most fulfilling accomplishments that you and your family can “share”. The degree represents the breaking of a cycle of an entire family system. It comes, however, at a huge cost to that student’s mental and emotional health.

giphy (33).gif

Source: Giphy

I remember leaving home and feeling like I had betrayed my siblings, that I deserted them. This “breakaway” guilt that I was feeling was caused by the void I knew I was leaving in my household when I left.

Who would make sure everybody got up for school?

Who would help my siblings with their homework?

Continue reading “The First Generation College Student Burden”

Guest Post: What is The 40-40-40 Scam?

21430237_2048751878712622_9099698910338133027_n

By: Cherise Floyd

Blogger of Life Rii-Imagined

This is where you work for someone else for 40 hours a week for 40 years and try to retire off of 40% of what you could barely live on when you were working. This is sadly, the reality for a large majority of people.

________________________________________________________________________

I want to be a writer. It took me six years, two degrees, and $88,000 of student loan debt to discover I want to be a writer.

Undergraduate Graduation:

unnamed

Masters Degree:

unnamed.png

I wasn’t encouraged to be a writer, to write poetry, to write stories, or songs. I was encouraged to write essays. Essays to institutions of higher education describing how they should let me in, how successful I could become if only given the opportunity. I was never encouraged to chase my own passion. Going to college was drilled in my head so much I was convinced it…

View original post 542 more words

Signs of Toxic Parents And How To Deal With Them

I love my mother to death, I do. I never went hungry, we always had shelter, we had a basement full of toys, books, and every Disney movie ever. She has always helped out family, friends, neighbors, etc even when she didnt have anything to give. She has always let me speak my mind, even if I was challenging her I could say how I felt. I am the person I am today because she always allowed me to be my weird introverted no style having self. But she also fell short as a parent in a lot of areas (my dad as well). I believe, that she believes, she did the best she could as a mother and Im at peace with that (now at least). Sometimes people dont live up to your expectations and thats ok. My issue is that she has this weird manipulative personality and has somehow convinced herself that her kids owe her something because she decided to be a parent.

hjvQdjZ.jpg

Source

Continue reading “Signs of Toxic Parents And How To Deal With Them”

Dysfunctional Part 5: What love isn’t

What love isn’t

Part 2 of 2

“What are you going to do? Are you going to live in the dark, locked in here? Afraid to look out, answer the door, leave? Yes, he’s out there, and he’s clearly not going to leave you alone until one of three things happens: he hurts you and gets arrested, or he makes a mistake and gets arrested, or you stop him.”
― Rachel CaineFall of Night

Joseph went to jail for two weeks over this ticket that he had. I used some of the time to go hang out at my dads since it had been forever since I lasted visited. I had my own friends, a boyfriend, I thought I was grown. The same day he got released I came home from my dad’s house and we were at his house alone.

“So how was jail? Did you drop the soap?” I asked him laughing.

Continue reading “Dysfunctional Part 5: What love isn’t”

Dysfunctional Part 5: What love isn’t

What love isn’t

Part 1 of 2

“Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?
Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?
Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did?
Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you?
Has he ever shoved, poked, or grabbed you?
Has he ever threatened to hurt you?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he’ll ever be violent; he already has been.”
― Lundy BancroftWhy Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

We met at a college fair at Eastern Michigan University. Up until that point, I was not interested in any of the guys that were at my school. I’m not sure what it is about him that attracted him to me or me to him. But nevertheless, I probably chose the worst person ever to take my virginity. Our relationship was great at first, but it gradually turned sour. I feel like after he took my virginity he became beyond controlling. Since I had no healthy relationship to base his actions off of at the time I thought it was completely normal. I was looking for love, I wasn’t getting it at home and I was determined to find it for myself. What I found was something entirely different.

Continue reading “Dysfunctional Part 5: What love isn’t”

Talk About it Tuesdays: Depression

 

4b0cb77f86a2f1c504410c5a566afd0a.jpg

I have been dealing with high functioning depression for a while now. I have been in this slump and I cant seem to get myself out of it. My days consist of work and sleeping. Im trying to pull myself out of it but I just cant at the current moment. I think its because Im feeling so empty and unfulfilled. A couple of years ago I had my entire life planned out and now I have no clue what to do with myself on a daily basis. Usually, going to the gym helps out but I cant bring myself to go to the gym. Im in this weird depressive state where I dont have the desire to do anything that will more than likely help me feel better.

What I wish I was doing instead of having to get up to be a productive person:

giphy (6).gif

I am so fed up with feeling like this. Its a day to day struggle with no end in sight. Ive hit this type of low twice in my life. The first time I dropped out of high school for about two months and just wandered around aimlessly. The second time I quit my job and stayed holed up in my apartment for two months. I desperately need some time off, I was considering taking a leave but I have bills to pay you know?  With all the craziness going on in the world mental health days should really be added as a benefit. Even though I want to, I really can’t afford to just drop out of life at this current moment.

giphy (7).gif

Hopefully, I feel better soon.

Discussion: What do you do to pull yourself out of depressive episodes?

Feeling like this is beyond exhausting.


Id love to hear from you!

Like, comment, subscribe, and follow me on social media!

Facebook: LifeRiiImagined 

Instagram: Nsorommaa_

Snapchat: CheriseAndrea

Twitter: LifeRiiImagined

 
 
THANKS FOR STOPPING BY!
WITH LOVE,
CHERISE