Detroit Blogger Networking Event

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This past Wednesday, some of Detroit’s brightest upcoming bloggers met up at Our/Detroit Micro Vodka Distillery to network and exchange ideas. Continue reading “Detroit Blogger Networking Event”

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Successful Black People- Lifting as We Climb? Or Leaving People Behind?

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Someone replied asking why he would have his grandmother still living in the hood and the exchange went something like this:

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I commented:

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Went to sleep and woke up with a ton of replies that all made me

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Is this seriously how we feel about our own neighborhoods? But we complain about gentrification when the great majority of us have NO interest in investing in the hood ourselves? We wonder why our neighborhoods are in dilapidated states when we leave to pursue a degree, get a job, and then put our tax money into another communities schools and neighborhoods. Leaving the people in the hood worse off than they were before. The “projects” the “Hood” was once brand new. The way it looks now is a result of the people that are in it. I LOVE how people like to point out white people put us somewhere, and sure they did. But they didnt tell us to not have respect for where we live, to not take care of it. WE did that.

After lamenting about the “Talented Tenth” W.E.B Dubois often talked about the growing class divide between blacks. With most of the black community being able to be thrown in two categories the “haves” and the “have nots”. This still rings true today which is why our communities frequently see things like:

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It frightens me that the Black Lives Matter Movement is being run by black millennials and scholars who largely attribute success to leaving their communities behind instead of making them better. It’s as if we have completely thrown “each one, teach one” and “lift as we climb” to the wayside.

But wait, there’s more….

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If this is how you feel about where you come from how do you REALLY feel about yourself? Moving from around your people to the white suburbs makes you feel better? That’s success? That’s making it? (someone pointed out that there are affluent black neighborhoods) which is true, but you weren’t born there so you’re still leaving YOUR community to go invest in someone else’s. How does that help the people in the hood? Or apparently, most people are saying

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“EVERYBODY FOR THEMSELVES”

 

 


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How will the hood ever thrive if the people that can create the most change leave….?

Our kids are turning to celebrities for role models because all of the college grads got degrees and turned their back on the hood. Its almost as if some black people sole mission in life is to prove that they “aren’t like those other blacks”.

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“There are certain aspects of black urban street culture that perpetuates the self-destructive behavior that reinforces the cycle of poverty- behavior that helps to keep the black poor impoverished”- Ebony Towers. Those of us that attended college were  FORTUNATE enough to break out of that system.

The only way to completely destroy that system is taking the knowledge we learned back and passing it along. We can not leave our people to suffer while we go on pretending like things have improved for black people because we made a little money. Because we “made it out the hood “as we can CLEARLY see a black man isnt safe anywhere in America. No matter how well you do racists will always turn to “black on black crime” or on the state of our neighborhoods to tell us why we dont deserve to have what they have. And no, not even the blacks that “make it” are exempt.

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We know they give us shitty schools that puts our kids on the school to prison pipeline. 

We know our black brothers and sisters receive longer and harsher prison sentences.

We have to deal with glass ceilings in the job market AFTER we get these degrees. 

And yet we keep trying to appeal to people that has NEVER treated us like human beings?

If not us then who? Who will stop the cycle of poverty in our communities? Surely not the ppl that placed us in it!

A white person posted this meme on twitter the other day:

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This is what they think about Africa and this is exactly what they think about our neighborhoods now.

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Neighborhoods in the city of Detroit.

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The sad part is I think that black people believe and buy into this meme based on them running away from their neighborhoods and into the suburbs as fast as they can.

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Is the only time blacks can stick together/come together for a cause is when some other racial group is discriminating against us?

Is it not the educated responsibility to teach the uneducated?

Do you think the few slaves that learned how to read went around calling other slaves ignorant and illiterate and telling them to “figure it out on their own”? Or did they pass the knowledge on?

Did Harriet Tubman go around bragging about how she escaped and how she was free and how if only other slaves would stop being so docile they could be free too? Or did she come back numerous times and SHOW numerous people the way to freedom?

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Be like Harriet Tubman… the hood needs you, your people need you.


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Rebuilding the Black Community

Blacks have developed a crippling desire to prove their respectability to whites, hoping that once convinced, whites will have a moral epiphany that leads to the dismantling of white supremacy. This obsession with white acceptance prevents the race as a whole from doing what is necessary to completely free themselves from oppression“.- Marcus Garvey


We cannot thrive in a system that was created by them, for them (built by us). Yet, we still try. Its pathetic when you really think about it. They stripped us of our language, and our culture to create zombie worker bees.

  • We were slaves
  • Discriminated against during Jim Crow
  • Murdered by the Klan whenever they felt like it

Now

  • “War on Drugs” to put us into prison slavery
  • Blacks are killed by the police and not punished
  • Blacks are sentenced to higher jail terms than whites
  • Discriminated against in jobs, in media, in film, for awards.
  • Live in subpar neighborhoods with subpar education

And yet black people are still crying out for white people to have some humanity and treat us equally.

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The reality is we live in a country that reminds us what they think about black people every day.

Post I saw on Twitter:

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Thank you SO much white savior! Thank you for taking me from my homelands, beating me, stripping me of my language and my culture,  for raping our women, killing our men, separating families, feeding us your scraps, freeing us only to deal with Jim Crow for the next few decades, for bombing little girls in churches, and picnicking during the local hanging, for killing young black men for whistling. We thank you!

 


I personally feel like systematic racism will NEVER end. We give them their power by being dependent on them. Its time we come together and show them by our actions we are more than what they think.

We shop at THEIR grocery stores.

Try to get loans from THEIR banks.

Attend THEIR schools and institutions of higher learning.

We work for THEIR businesses.

But demand respect from them, and wonder why we dont get it.

Racist White America be like:

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Lets stop asking for our respect and demand it. We are a strong people and we have mastered survival but now it’s time to thrive! 

  • Lets rebuild our neighborhoods. Let those of us who go off and get degrees COME BACK to the hood and share the knowledge.
  • Let us create our own institutions of learning and create individuals who pursue not only degrees but trades.
  • Lets create more entrepreneurs and less workers.
  • Lets police our own communities.
  • Lets create a safe space for youth to go.
  • Lets promote safe sex and teach black women the value of their bodies.
  • Lets teach our black men family values, and how to respect women, most importantly how to respect themselves and other black men.
  • Lets start community gardens and encourage good nutrition and good health.
  • Lets encourage more trades and not make black children feel like if they arent cut out for college they have to rap or play basketball to be “successful”
  • Lets stop acting like we’re helpless and acknowledge that a large majority of us are brainwashed.

Other races tend to teach their children about finances, relationships, health, safety, politics, entrepreneurship, etc. Why is it the black community that lets its children be raised by the television and music? How many kids do you know that can spit rap lyrics word for word but cant tell you about Marcus Garvey? How many black kids do you know that knows white history but not their own outside of the fact they were slaves? Why would you trust white institutions to teach black children?


In researching for this blog I stumbled upon this interesting article by Dr. Boyce Watkins about black people being brainwashed he stated that allowing these things have lead to our detriment and I agree 100%:

  1.  Letting our oppressors educate our children, medicate them, and put them into the school-to-prison pipeline.
  2. Believing that white people are supposed to give us jobs when we can actually create them on our own: ” Given our long and rich history of working for white people, it can be difficult to see ourselves as the boss instead of the laborer.  In fact, even us “educated” black people were often told that you should study hard in school so that some white-owned company will love you enough to employ you.  Now, we’re seeing Harvard MBAs in the unemployment line, struggling to survive, like lions raised in the zoo who are starving to death because they were never taught how to hunt for their own food.”
  3. Thinking that every black person who goes to prison is automatically a bad human being.
  4. Eating food that is going to give you diabetes and/or heart disease and/or high blood pressure and/or chronic obesity by the age of 45.
  5. Valuing sports and entertainment over education
  6. Believing that black people you see on white-owned TV networks are supposed to be leaders or role models to your community
  7. Believing that every tax refund check and every paycheck is supposed to go straight to the mall to buy overpriced European brands from companies that don’t even hire black people.
  8. Thinking that being “rich” means having a high paying job, a big house or a fancy car, even if it’s all financed with debt.
  9. Giving your money to white businesses and avoiding the black ones
  10. Thinking that we’re all supposed to vote for the Democratic Party in every election
  11. Believing that Africa is a poor, dirty, horrible place with nothing but poverty and disease, and that you should thank your lucky stars you were “blessed” enough to live in America
  12. Believing that Harvard and Yale are better than Spelman and Howard
  13. Not realizing that both Spelman and Howard were founded by white people
  14.  Not realizing that most of the people who founded the NAACP were actually white and that this organization never really belonged to you in the first place.
  15. Thinking that straight hair is “good” and black hair is “nasty,” then giving all of your money to Korean beauty shops so they can make you feel better about yourself. 
  16. Believing that light skinned women are more attractive than those with dark skin
  17.  Knowing nothing about African history, but believing that every great accomplishment occurred in Europe, starting with Christopher Columbus “discovering” a country that was well-populated thousands of years before he arrived.
  18. Believing that you’re only supposed to pray, march and be peaceful every time your children get slaughtered by whites.
  19. Delivering your prayers to a big, white Jesus who will solve most of your problems for you, as long as you give money to the pastor.
  20. Believing that integration was a sign of progress for black people and not an era where black institutions were destroyed and left for dead
  21. Believing that Martin Luther King is more important than Malcolm X because white people market him more regularly
  22. Thinking that its normal to have an all-black neighborhood with a mostly white police force, when there are no all-white neighborhoods with a mostly black police force
  23. Thinking that the first black (fill in the blank) to get into a white institution actually represents progress, even though whites have never considered it be progress to get into our institutions (Does standard White History include a story about the first white man to get into Morehouse?)

When I say he went IN on this article!! You can read it in depth here 


We put way too much faith into this great white savior that has NEVER had anything for us. Only their hammy downs and scraps that our hard labor paid for. When will the black community come together and stand up and say enough? Why can we build the entire United States but need the white mans help to rebuild our own neighborhoods?


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Q&A With a Black Travelista

Meet travel extraordinaire Brittany Floyd aka Britta!

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She is a flight attendant and the owner of GoSomePlaceNow.

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GoSomePlaceNow is a website aimed at first-time and seasoned travelers offering a host of tips on places to go, things to do, and useful information to make a trip memorable. I got the opportunity to pick Brittas brain about her travel adventures, check out my interview below.

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Dating Someone with Kids. Yay or Nay?

For me, personally, Id have to say,

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Absolutely not! 

My ex literally had the worst possible baby mama that you could ever have. Just for education purposes lets review the different types of baby mamas one could have. (Baby fathers are not exempt from this, but I cant comment on how a baby daddy can behave).

Baby Mama Level 1: “Accidental Baby Mama” 

May have been your girlfriend when she got pregnant. May still be your girlfriend now, got pregnant by “accident” but kept it due to moral reasons or due to the relationship. He hasnt made her a wife just yet so she’s sitting in limbo. At this level, the female either eventually marries her babies daddy and upgrades to a wife or stays in forever baby mama land.

Baby Mama Level 2: “Child Support Check Baby Mama” 

This baby mama has been plotting on you. She see’s how you treat your girlfriend and or wife. She see’s you out here shining and she’s just trying to be down by any means necessary. THESE ARE THE WOMEN THAT TRAP MEN. These are the women that use their kids as a 9 to 5 because they only conceived them for the purpose of being able to put the man on a leash, or be taken care of financially. (As most BM’s in this category soon find out this blows up in their face most of the time -unless you land an NBA baller).

Baby Mama Level 3: “Needs an IUD Baby Mama”

These are babies born from a fast and loose woman. All for a nice time, “easy”, usually doesn’t care if the man uses protection or not. Uses plan B, abortions, and everything else BUT birth control. More than likely has multiple kids with multiple fathers. She could be a hoe or could be someone who cant live without being with someone- no matter the costs. For these types of people, low self-esteem is common and they operate under the “being with someone, ANYONE, is better than being alone” philosophy. So they’ll keep having babies hoping the next man and the next man will stay.


So now that we had that brief baby mama lesson. She was for sure a mix of baby mama levels two and three. Completely delusional, and to top it off, illiterate. Im not even just hating like real life illiterate. The type of female that makes you look at your mate and question how could they possibly be with you if he was attracted to somebody like that.

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She did not respect our relationship and literally used to hold her son hostage. “If you’re with her you cant see your son.” “You dont want to be a family so you cant see your son.”

Then she would want to argue on social media.

Her: “Thats why I have his son, his FIRST son, his FIRST child.”

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Me:

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and thats why I actually have him.

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Because any female with ovaries can do that. Whats your point? You got the son and I got the whole man, with the sperm included to make more kids.

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At some point, I figured I should just remove myself from the equation. Because it got to the point where she was forcing him to choose between being with me or spending time with his son. It started to become a competition between us. What she could get him to do as a baby mama vs what he would do for me as the girlfriend.

I started wanting him to neglect his child just to prove a point to her and thats when I knew I needed to just remove myself from the equation.

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And Im glad I did because now he’s in prison.

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So she gets to be a single mom.

And guess who got to walk away with no loose ends?

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Me!!!!

Bet you wish you didnt have that baby now!

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But now Im scarred for life and have no interest in dating someone with a kid. To be specific this is EXACTLY why I dont want to date someone with kids.

  1. I want to experience being a new parent together
  2. I think that kids suffer in blended families. No matter how hard you try to make things work someone gets the short end of the stick.
  3. Their kid comes first, always. Not you.
  4. Dealing with a bitter baby mama
  5. You’re always expected to be the bigger person when the baby mama is childish.
  6. Walking on egg shells with the baby mama for fear she will not let your boyfriend see his child.
  7. Having to deal with the baby mother wanting to do things as a “family”
  8. Having to deal with the baby mama needing a little extra “help” on bills. And him giving it to her because at the end of the day its “for his child”
  9. Having to deal with the mother turning the child against you.

So Its going to be a “no” for me and any guy who already has kids. Would you date someone with kids? Have you dated someone with kids? Are you currently with someone with kids? Or are YOU the crazy baby mama if you already have kids?

 

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Dating Deal Breakers: Lets Talk about it Thursdays

A friend and fellow blogger Shawn J Ransom posted this question on FB this morning.

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The responses from his friends did not disappoint.

Responses from women were:

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  • Not being a Christian

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  • Being disrespectful

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  • Smoking Cigarettes

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  • Lack of Empathy

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  • Lack of Hygiene

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  • Being a Mamas boy

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  • Being inconsistent
  • Liars

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  • Alcoholics

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  • Having Bad teeth

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  • Lazy

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  • No ambition
  • Doesn’t cook

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  • Sags pants

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  • Having a girlfriend

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  • Lack of respect for his mother
  • Small uhh “package” 

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Responses from Men were:

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  • Being late for dates

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  • Lazy

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  • Rude

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  • Lots of kids

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  • Ugly feet

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  • Being self-centered

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For me personally, I would have to agree with everything that the ladies said. But I would have to add:

  • Not having steady employment
  • Irresponsible with finances
  • Spending too much time on social media

What are some dating deal breakers for you?


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