I’m a cocoa brown goddess because I was born to a cocoa brown queen. And while I didn’t choose this skin I’m in I couldn’t imagine being any other thing…
Images by: K Nikol Art
Being a Black Woman:
In corporate America is:
- Not taking it personal when I realize that even though I’ve worked here for over a year there are still clients and families that have not said one word to me.
- Getting comfortable around your coworkers only to get home and replay everything you said for fear of having sounded “too black”.
- Realizing that you haven’t worn your hair natural since your colleague gave you a “compliment” on how pretty your “fluff” is (my hair was in an Afro puff) seriously wtf is fluff?-Those balls you take out the dryer?!?
Words that could have been used instead of “fluff”: puff ball, afro, ponytail, HAIR!!!??.
- Realizing that it is now legal to discriminate against dreads and other natural hair styles so I have to be selective in how I chose to wear my hair (http://www.usmagazine.com/stylish/news/us-court-rules-employers-can-discriminate-against-dreadlocks-w441580).
- Coming into work and seeing stuff like this:
More than once!
- Being asked for your opinion by a white colleague on how to best interact with a black mother (or other blacks in general) when you’re not a mother, or can’t relate. My response: “I dont know, I dont have kids”.
- Having a token black person (meaning someone whose been at the company for a while and has learned the system) pull you aside and let you know how it works for them and how it works for us (literally had this happen at all three of my big girl jobs).
- Watching your white counterparts who ask you for help every day getting promotions before you. Yay! Im SOOOOO happy for you. Not!
- Turning down work social invitations because making uncomfortable small talk to a table full of older white people doesn’t sound very fun at all. I’d rather stay on the clock but you guys have fun!
- Working three times as hard to prove yourself!
- Mentioning to your white co-worker that you’re ashy and them asking about your fireplace. Really?
- Noticing everything because you have to be super aware at all times.
- Having to come into work and pretend like the issues of police Brutality aren’t happening or affecting you as work typically isn’t a place to discuss politics.
- Or even worse having those “I have a safety pin” on my shirt I’m a safe space crap. I don’t need your sympathy I just want to be treated equal k?
- Being selective with the clothes you wear for my curvy sisters. Remember #TeacherBae that went viral?
- Counting how many black people are in the room at meetings. (There are two in this photo I circled them because my find other black people skills are legit)
- Wondering if there’s any possibility for advancement because no one in upper management looks like you.
- Knowing that some of the same colleagues who are nothing but nice to you at work voted for Trump (Soooo you’ve been just pretending to like me orrrrr?)
- Linking up with the other black people that work there cause well…… you know why…
- What are some issues you’ve faced working in corporate America?
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